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By Ray Hainer/ Special to the Townsman
Thursday, December 30, 2004
An orphanage director in Nairobi, a pastor's wife in Brownwood,
Texas, a toll collector on the Mass Pike - these individuals are
just some of the thousands who make up an ever-widening circle of
people inspired by a local 11-year-old boy.
Each day Alex Southmayd, a sixth grader at the St. John the Evangelist
school on Ledyard Street, receives a handful of testimonials and
messages of support from people who have been touched in some way
by the Give It Forward Today project, a movement that Alex created
this spring to promote kindness across the world.
The premise of the project, known as G.I.F.T., is that if people
do two good deeds and encourage others to do the same, the resulting
ripple effect will produce a "wave of human kindness"
that will gradually change the world. The G.I.F.T. project is modeled
after the "Pay It Forward" movement, which grew out of
a novel of that title by Catherine Ryan Hyde and a subsequent Hollywood
movie.
Like so many, Alex was inspired by the book and movie but, wanting
to do something original, set out to begin a mini-movement of his
own. Alex, an A-student who plays several sports and the piano,
is the type of kid who sounds dead serious when he says he wants
to be President of the United States, so it was perhaps no surprise
that he tackled the task with such purpose .
After more than a month of preparation, Alex launched the G.I.F.T.
Web site in March with the help of his father Jeffrey, a managing
partner at a Boston consulting firm, and some volunteer web designers.
The site, www.giveitforwardtoday.org, has logged some 10,000 hits
since then.
Among other things, the site contains several motivational passages
written by Alex and his dad, a personal note from Catherine Ryan
Hyde herself, and a list of about 30 "G.I.F.T. ideas,"
which range from neighborly favors (walking someone's dog) to monumental
acts of generosity
paying someone's mortgage for a month).
But the "heart and soul of the project," as Mr. Southmayd
puts it, are the personal messages posted on the site from people
all over the world. Many describe the positive effects of the G.I.F.T.
project, and the Southmayds hope these stories will inspire others
to good deeds.
"The whole point of the Web site is to inspire people to make
a difference," Alex explains. "If one in 100 people get
inspired, that's all that matters."
The Southmayds, who live in Wayland, have always made a habit of
committing random acts of kindness. Whether it is leaving large
tips at restaurants or stopping for stranded motorists, the Southmayds
have been practicing for years what they now preach. But while most
people would be content to do an occasional good deed, the Southmayds
have adopted what might be described as an entrepreneurial approach
to altruism.
Now less than a year old, the G.I.F.T. project already resembles
something akin to a small business. The Southmayds had a batch of
yellow-and-white G.I.F.T. pens made up, and they created wallet-sized
"G.I.F.T. cards" on their Web site for visitors to print
and hand out. Ultimately, they would like to collect some of the
better messages they've received in a book that would benefit the
Pay It Forward Foundation.
Unlike real business owners, of course, the Southmayds measure their
success by the number of people they affect, not the money they
take in. As Alex puts it, "The only benefit is knowing you've
made someone's life a little brighter."
They don't solicit donations, preferring to leave it up to individuals
to find ways of their own, financial or otherwise, of helping people.
"So many non-profits have to do with raising money," says
Mr. Southmayd. "This has to do with human capital."
Yet, in spite of the G.I.F.T. project's modest premise, the Southmayds
have lofty goals. They hope to eventually draw 1 million people
to their Web site, and they are aiming at nothing short of an overhaul
of what Mr. Southmayd calls our "culture of 'get'."
"Get a better job, get a better house-people have transformed
their vocabulary from 'give' to 'get'," he says. "People
ask, 'What'd you get for Christmas.' Well, how about, 'What'd you
give for Christmas?'"
While these ingrained 'get' attitudes may prove difficult to overcome,
they may also be one of the factors working in favor of the G.I.F.T.
project. Judging from the typical reaction the Southmayds receive
when they do a good deed and hand out a G.I.F.T. card, the low expectations
most people have for their fellow man these days only serve to heighten
the effect.
"People look a little stunned," Alex says. "They
think it's so great."
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